Five Steps for Find a Christian Date or a Christian Single Online

Okay, you have joined Free Christian Singles Dating.com and now what do you do?  Here are five sound recommendations that will help you get started.

Step One: Pray.  God is our sustainer and he is sovereign (completely in control) and you are not going to find someone apart from his doing.  Therefore, as it may be obvious, he is the one we should turn to in regards to our needs, hopes and dreams.  So Pray to him to meet the one that he would have you with.  Go to him first in prayer and trust him with what worries you.  I have heard of some praying for God to "close the door" of those who are not good for you.  This is all the same.  Pray and continue to pray as in Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the LORD with all your heart

         And do not lean on your own understanding.

    In all your ways acknowledge Him,

         And He will make your paths straight.  

Step Two:  Search for others.  Search, browse and investigate other members.  The search tool is probably the most important tool you can use, but it does take some skill.  The trick is to use wide searches meaning only choose a few criteria to obtain a large list to look through. Choose wide age ranges, and large zip code searches.  Also, search by state only or those with a certain area code.  Try many ways, for not everyone will enter the same data. For example there are many cities that have several Area Codes etc.    

Step Three: Have a good profile.  Keep in mind that others are looking for you and your profile what they will first look at.  Therefore, fill out your profile as much as possible.  Help others know and understand your experiences, personality, likes and dislikes.  There are several other fields that are available to you and take a look at the FAQ section for further descriptions on these fields.  Read other profiles and find out what you like about their profile and then incorporate those ideas into your profile.  Read your own profile and don't be afraid to update regularly.  This will help you understand yourself better and also who you are looking for in a person.  Some even read other member profiles of the same sex to get an idea what other members are reading along with your profile.  Finally, take your time and really think about your answers and what the reader will be thinking.  Be positive and courteous in your profiles responses.

Step Four: Communicate!  This can be intimidating at first but it really is the key that opens the door for you.  You can communicate in several ways and you should consider each one.  These include Instant Messages, Letters, Forums, Polls and Blogs.  Instant messages and Letters are private messages sent from you to one other member.  It is common to feel uncomfortable sending out letters to other members that you don't know, but keep in mind that it is much easier then talking in person.  Also, keep is simple and light, something like this.  "Hi, I just read your profile and I really like your description.  I too am interested in Bible study.  Anyway, hope you have a good day."  That's really all it takes, it gives the reader an idea of who you are and that you took interest in them.  There is no commitment and the conversation may not even go on from there, but this is how it could start with the right person!  Hopefully you will get a nice response and could start a conversation. 

Forums, Polls and Blogs are public postings that all members can read.  Consider these as further part of your profile but your responses are about other topics or topics of your choosing.  These really grab others attention and this is always a great thing when you are trying to meet other members.  Forums are topic based in categories called threads.  They act like a bulletin board where you can post messages in an orderly fashion.  Polls are just that, a poll on any topic you choose.  Blogs or biographical logs, can be considered as an online diary or log that can cover practically anything.  These give you the change to share your thoughts and feelings about whatever comes into your mind!  Overall, forums, polls and blogs give you great exposure and allow others to find you!

Step Five: Be Patient.  Yes, it can happen fast, but most likely this will not happen.  It may take some time.  The best advice is to sit back, take your time, know that God will lead you the right one and then just enjoy the process.  Talk to as many members as you can, participate in the forums, polls, and browse member's profiles.  Other websites want you to pay money which gives you the feeling that you need to act fast.  Rest assured, this not the case with Free Christian Singles Dating.  Therefore take you time and go as fast or as slow as you wish.

So there you have it the top five this you can start doing right now that will help you find the one that you are looking for.   Hopefully you will have some good conversations, or possible a date or two.