I'm sure you have all been there.  Someone is interested in you, but you don't feel the same for them.

I have never mastered the art of gracefully rejecting the advances of a potential suitor.

I am willing to bet most of us haven't.

This is something I wish I had learned at puberty.  Someone should have taught us.

If you are anything like me, you never want to hurt the other person's feelings and always want to keep the opportunity for friendship open.

Therefore, I have failed miserably many times in getting the point across, as I do not wish to be rude, mean, or hurtful.

This is not good, because, many times the other person takes my kindness or friendliness as an indication that I simply want them to try harder.

Is it best to be brutally honest and say, "I am not attracted to you."  or "I think you are immature."  or "You are not good enough for me in multiple ways."?????  I can't imagine it would be. 

The worst is when the other person tells you they believe God is telling them you are meant to be together or something of this sort.

Some people won't take "no" for an answer no matter what.  I'm worn out of dealing with this and I feel guilty and bad when it happens.

By now I should have it mastered.

I have even told them (honestly) that I have prayed and sought God about the situation and was told no.  This never seems to work.

I am asking you sincerely, guys, what is the best thing to say in this situation?  I want to honor God in everything.  I am having a very hard time with this.

Your insight would be greatly appreciated!

Awww this subject is one that touches my heart and is a blessings to share what the Lord has shown me with you. The truth is always the best and being straight forward and confident that what I'm about to share with you will not only work in not hurting them, or making them feel rejcted, or tec....but it will bless them at the same time. We are called to be equally yoked in the Lord and going in the same direction in him together, and with the one he proves in time is his will and desire for us. This means our faith, understanding, things we have been through, personality, which can include a lot of different things which make up who you are and the direction you are being lead in him. The thing to do is to share the truth of being equally yoked with them, because most people today do not understand it or even think about it. Then the next thing to do is just share that you feel lead in a different direction then you see them going. Tell them thar it's not a bad thing, but a good thing. Because the Lord is guiding each of you to who his desire and will for you is. So in truth it is just blessing, and his guidance along the path to who is his will for each of you.

Gods Continued Blessings And Love,

David